I'm reading the most amazing book right now- one of those books that I force myself to put down because I love to have a new page to read every so often. Just had to share a quote with you (and a video to boot)! These words ring so true to me.
-MM
"When you believe without knowing you believe that you are damaged at your core, you also believe that you need to hide that damage for anyone to love you. You walk around ashamed of being yourself. You try hard to make up for the way you look, walk, feel. Decisions are agonizing because if you, the person who makes the decision, is damaged, then how can you trust what you decide? You doubt your own impulses so you become masterful at looking outside yourself for comfort. You become an expert at finding experts and programs, at striving and trying hard and then harder to change yourself, but this process only reaffirms what you already believe about yourself- that your needs and choices cannot be trusted, and left to your own devices you are out of control...
You are not a mistake. You are not a problem to be solved. But you won't discover this until you are willing to stop banging your head against the wall of shaming and caging and fearing yourself. The Sufi poet Rumi, writing about birds learning to fly, wrote: "How do they learn it? They fall, and falling, they're given wings." -Geneen Roth, Women, Food and God
3 comments:
I totally loved this book, too. I read my way out of therapy with Geneen Roth. :)
Beautiful,
I totally resonate with this quote. and love it to pieces, how are you liking the rest of the book -- I've heard it's amazing, I think it's next on my list...
LOVE,
Bekah
I recently wrote about this book on my blog. It is so great!! I just came across your blog after my father was diagnosed with stage three melanoma. Thanks for sharing your story. It has helped me already.
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